Before I begin, I’d like to make it very clear that as individuals we are all entitled to our own opinions, you as much as I, and I as much as you. That is all. 🙂
Hi There, All.
Today I’d like to briefly discuss a slightly more serious topic than what’s usually addressed on Lace & Lilacs… in other words, no sweet ‘lil links, personal life updates, or travel recs will be featured here today.
Instead, let’s talk body image. (I know – it’s not at all relevant to this lifestyle blog, but stay with me, please.)
I won’t be providing you with a positive pep talk, just so you know – that is far from the purpose of today’s post.
Let’s kick things off with ‘story time’, shall we?
Not long ago I was on Facebook, perusing the articles, status updates, etc…, as most of us do every so often. Now, I recently joined a blogger network that happens to have a Facebook group for simplified interaction between its members. A participant in said group posted to the board, going on about a certain company that sent her a free cellulite set. She praised it, considered herself ‘lucky to review it’, and encouraged other women to reach out to this brand about receiving a set of their own for reviewal.
There are no words that adequately describe how disgusted I was by this.
Okay, I know, I know that in the grand scheme of things, it’s honestly not that big of a deal.
Except, except… it kind of is.
As women, we all struggle with body image issues. Regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, hair color, height, etc… this is one of the few things all of us ladies have in common. Why bother denying it? It’s true.
BUT. Our insecurities do not define us, nor does our physical appearance. Why bother with thigh cream when cellulite is natural, harmless, and completely healthy? The fat in our thighs aids in the development of our babies’ brains during pregnancy. It serves a wonderful, wonderful purpose and helps to create new life.
We will all age. Wrinkles, bone loss, graying hair… it is inevitable. Why then, spend a significant amount of time and a great deal of money on a temporary ‘fix’ that, oftentimes, is nothing more than a meticulously crafted scam to trick us out of our hard earned cash?
I am not against make up, of course, or wanting to look nice for whatever reason, but it’s often taken too far in today’s society. Bloggers encouraging their impressionable audiences to ‘thin out’, ‘lose weight’, or ‘look like such and such model’ concerns me. It’s one thing to purchase a beauty product for personal use – but publicly supporting a kit such as the one previously mentioned can inflict serious harm unto others.
I’m sure my longtime readers are aware of a serious health crisis I faced over a year ago… while the details of this are highly personal, and may never be shared in this space, let me just say this: life or death situations make you realize what’s important; they force you to see the bigger picture, and come to term to terms with the fact that some goals simply aren’t worth working toward; particularly if the ‘work’ doesn’t make you happy. Odds are, even if you reach your ‘goal weight’, ‘cleanse’ your perfectly healthy body, or put the aforementioned ‘cellulite kit’ to use, you still won’t be content or satisfied. The underlying problem, which you might not even be conscious of, could be a psychological trouble, a failing relationship, even an emotional disorder. That’s for you yourself to determine.
I don’t mean to sound at all dramatic. This is just the truth; my truth.
I find that I often fixate on my physical appearance when an emotion or situation I can’t control presents itself to me. It’s a bit of a defense mechanism, I suppose. But over-analyzing our looks instead of taking a step back and examining the bigger picture, can, in many situations, have negative consequences.
Back to the point: The promotion of cellulite kits is destructive and harmful, and no matter how exciting or promising an opportunity to work with a company that backs such a destructive product may seem… it’s not worth it. Think of the self harm, eating disorders, and self doubt it could very well trigger in your readers.
Just think about it.